Estrangement: We’re Asking the Wrong Question

Blame Doesn’t Heal Anyone

Whatever combination of factors is behind any one estrangement — a therapist's guidance, a pattern of harm that finally got named, a wound that never healed, a culture that's given people new language for old pain — the estrangement is already here. It exists, and it’s running rampant. Trying to assign the blame exclusively to therapists, parents, adult children, social media, or cultural changes may generate debate, but it will not heal a single family.